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6 Ways to a Sensational Summer

Photo Credit: Lin Pernille Photography

 

Photo Credit: Lin Pernille Photography

This week’s intention is Make More Memories.

Last summer, I barely had a minute to enjoy the times we had together.

I did things. I spent time with the family. But it was all very rushed. There was a lot of stress last summer, of course. That stress has changed to new stress this year. Now, instead of my husband being unemployed, he’s commuting 2.5 hours a day. That means I will be treking the kids across town to summer camp and picking them up again — all while working full-time.

I feel the push and pull of the summer months and busy days already, like weights around my ankles. The weekends are already filling fast, fast, fast. Much like our spring bucket list, I want to make sure I make the most of summer, that I practice the mindfulness that is so important to how we raise our children — with our eyes and hearts wide open.

I’m worried I’ll miss another summer season rushing around.

So I’m making plans to have the most Awake summer I’ve had in a long, long time. I want to Wake Up each day and know that I’m in the middle of summer.

How, though? How is this even possible?

Planning ahead. And less expectations of myself and summer itself. First, you must ask yourself what summer means to you. Your answer may differ from mine. Summer means lazy days, swimming and enjoying all of my favorite foods and drinks — all while spending as little time inside as possible.  Write your own answer using the following for inspiration.

Here are 6 Ways to a Sensational Summer:

MEALS: I’ve already selected what we’re eating this summer. I sat down with a notebook and wrote a list of all our favorite summery meals. The best summer desserts. Fresh fruit musts. Barbecue fooods. I plan to only grill or use the crockpot most of the time because I do not want to  stand over the stove when I could be outside. I don’t want to get to the end of summer and realize I forgot to make homemade ice cream as often as possible.

CREATE A PLAN: We will resume our home learning this summer to keep the kids brains’ sharp. I haven’t done much home education since they began Kindergarten so I’m excited to do this again this summer. We’ve created a plan for Monday through Friday and I will have it all planned out before the end of the school year. It will be fun, of course, and less like school and more like summer camp. The kids helped create the list of what we’ll do this summer to keep learning fun. Of course, this is whole-family learning at our house, not just for the children. We’ll all be involved.

ENJOY THE SUMMER: Stop and take deep breaths. Go outside often. Sip tea on the porch. Watch a sun set and a sun rise. Stare up at the moon with my arms open wide. Dance. Feel every moment possible. Taste the summer as if its fresh from a tree.

DAILY WONDER: I plan to take a 15 minute daily wonder time-out for myself. It will probably include a lot of sitting on the patio or the front porch or on the side of the pool with my feet soaking. It will be outside or near a breezy window. It may even be sitting outside under the porch roof, listening to the rain. It will involve appreciation and gratitude to the amazing people in our life. It will include listening to what the stars are telling me.

PUT LOVE FIRST: For the first time ever, my husband and I are making our summer bucket list in addition to the one we have as a family. We’ll do simple, easy and fun things each week, probably after the girls go to sleep. Things like make Sangria, swim after dark and make a summer playlist. I’ll share our family’s bucket lists later this week.

RELAX: For children, summer is about no school and just being themselves.  The great things about summer are, indeed, magical — simply because children make them so. To truly have a sensational summer, we need to relax the rules, invite curiosity and wonder into our lives and follow their lead. It might lead to a creek to wade your feet. It might lead to a night of catching lightning bugs. It might lead to sitting in a tent in the backyard, reading and giggling. Whatever it is …. let the children decide and magic will follow.

How about you? What does summer mean to you?

 

 

 

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Amaze Yourself & Notice the Beauty

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When you wake today, May You Notice.

May you Pay attention.

May you see and honor the tiny, yet beautiful details of life unfolding before your very eyes. May you feel how the earth holds you up, grounds you and gives you something to stand on, something to stand for each day. May you smell the coffee as it gradually drifts from room to room. May you Breathe in the morning air, the smells of new beginnings, of starting overs, of delicious conspiracies you can turn into your reality.

May you see your partner. How he or she follows the same routine. How he or she takes time to notice the little things. May You hear what is not only said but meant. May You be open to that love between you.

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And when the children wake early, long before the sun rises, may you Notice.

May you Pay attention. May you realize this, too, will most definitely pass.

May you laugh as their bed head makes their hair do twisty, weird things. May you feel how their warmth radiates from their hearts, filling yours. Smell their sweetness and innocence before everyone gets too busy to gather close again. Notice what their eyes are drawn to out of curiosity and wonder. May You Notice what inspires them to smile. May you smile with them at the beauty of everything.

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As you go about your day, and your family goes about theirs, May You Pay attention to the birds singing outside your windows. May you notice the way the green stems are peeking up through the ground. May you notice how the clouds are billowing away their time in the sky, traveling, floating. May You Notice the way all the human beings you pass are just human beings, fighting to survive another day themselves. May you notice how they warm your heart even if they are strangers, even if they are not like you.

And when you come back together as a family, May You Pay Attention to what isn’t said at all. May you look into each others eyes and notice how bright they are, or tired they are, or excited they are. May you cook slowly, eat slowly and linger long together, just relishing this meal for what it us — sustenance, soul food, nourishment. May you savor that food and the memories of eating together. May You Notice that this moment is what matters.

May You Pay Attention to the joy that crosses their faces as you say YES, finally, again, once more. May You Notice how that makes you feel, to make people happy because you can, because you wanted to and because you could.

As your day comes to an end, May You Notice how the light fades in each of your rooms. How the energy rises …. rises …. rises and then watch it as it falls, comes to a sleepy end. May You Notice how little bodies shiver and lips turn blue as they dry off from their bath. May You Notice how the knots have gotten more tangled as their hair has grown, as they have grown. May you notice that the line on the bathroom wall where you last measured is now far below where their head would be now.

May You Notice that life is right here, this moment and no other. May You Notice that you just survived a day without tackling your to-do list. May You Notice that you, too, have needs. A bath. A good book. A sweet wine. A massage. A long night’s sleep. To talk to a friend. To write long and full of run-on sentences because you have so much to express, so much to say and there aren’t enough hours to remember it all even though you really wish you could so you just have to write them down before you forget the beauty.

May You Pay Attention to all that matters today. And nothing more.

For more mindful living inspiration, check out Amaze Yourself & Say Yes More, Amaze Yourself & Do Less and Amaze Yourself & Act Silly.

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Zen and the Art of Morning Madness

I used to love mornings.

I mean, really. I loved mornings. I would sip coffee all morning, write until my heart was content, read, clean … oh, it was such joy.

Then I became a mom.

eeeeerkkkk. Put on the brakes.

Mornings pretty much can suck as a mother. I mean, truly.

And while they certainly are not the easy street they used to be, I actually still really love mornings. I just have to rise very early to enjoy them.

Now that my kids are in school, the pressure to get keep them on schedule is even greater. Packing up and preparing takes much longer and is much harder. And, the responsbility of all of those papers, and lunch boxes is so heavy at times.

It’s easy to fall into that trap of rush, rush, rush — which often means yell, yell, yell.

It definitely is — at least at the age of 5 — still quite a nag fest in the mornings, but I’ve discovered the magic elixer to making it easier on myself.

My late is your early. Yup, even when I think I’m late, we’re always early — very early, in fact.

When I realized that my internal clock was rushing and yelling and nagging my children because of my own stresses, I relaxed. Now, late is late and, frankly, we’ve never been late. We’ve been later than I wanted to be. We’ve been later than the school bus we get behind sometimes. We’ve even been almost late. But we’ve never actually been late for school.

Knowing what stresses me makes it so much easier to stress less. And what has happened is that I’m relaxed, more awake and a lot more happy when I am driving off to start my day. It’s not fool proof. There are just days when, well, no amount of Zen in the world can help me deal with two 5 year olds getting out the door by 7:30 a.m. No amount of meditation. No amount of coffee.

And I”m OK with that.

Breath. Meditation. Centering. Faith. Trust.

It’s all in me. It’s all up to me. It’s all I’ve got day after day.

I am the difference between a smile and a frown each day, between laughter and tears.

So glad I’ve finally, finally figured this out.

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