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Starting a child’s day with JOY

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Jump-Start your family's day and spread joy

 Question of the Day: How does your family start its day?

 Waking up this morning, I smile. Twenty-four brand new hours are before me. I vow to live fully in each moment. ~ Thích Nhất Hạnh

Each day at our house begins roughly the same.

We shower and get ready quickly — just moments before we know we’ll hear the foot shuffle of little people walking and stirring awake.

Downstairs, the lunches are made, bags are packed and homework is already tucked into binders.

And the second we see our girls, we stop everything and beam at the sight of them.

We might be really busy, and feeling really rushed but this moment is the only one that counts.

The moment that matters.

This is when we let our children know we really see them.

We’re genuinely excited to talk to them after that nearly 12-hour gap in “Mommy, can you help me” and “Daddy, can we snuggle.”

That quiet during sleep is our time apart. That is our break.

So when we reunite, we have a choice on how we react and respond — with eagerness and joy to start our day, or with dread and the feeling of interruption, disruption and inconvenience.

How do you want to be greeted?

Jump Start your family's day

I choose with joy and light. Gentle and reassuring. Loving but not overkill.

“Good morning, Sunshine,” I belt out, embracing her warm body, bed head and smelly bed breath and all — at a mere 6:05 a.m.

And then I do it all over again when her twin sister wakes a tiny bit later.

This is when we make or break a day — ours and our children’s.

This is when, we the parents, have a choice to set a tone for a day of awesome or a day of dread.

This is when our children can be coached and mentored into demonstrating a good attitude or a bad one — and when we choose our own.

The moment that matters.

“Are you ready to have a great Tuesday?” I ask with a smile in my voice because I mean it and I want those kinds of positive vibes to travel into their amazing minds even though they are tired, even though they are worn out by the school year, and even though they’d rather stay home and play sometimes.

They nod their heads in affirmation.

Smiles form around their lips.

Their eyes start to shine.

They sit up a bit straighter.

They begin to see the opportunity of a Tuesday. They visualize themselves having a fantastic day. They know at this instant that no one can take their joy.

The dreads melt away.

And then they shuffle off, get dressed and start their day.

The moment that matters.

Jump Start your family's day with a dose of joy

At night, after a long day of learning, play and chores, we reunite at bedtime, repeating the same ritual night after night after night.

“I love you to the moon and back. Don’t let the bed bugs bite. See you in the morning. Sweet dreams.”

And then I whisper in their ears …

“Tomorrow’s going to be a great day!”

The moment that matters.

Question of the Day: How does your family start its day?

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It takes a village to raise a mother

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Question of the Day: How are you teaching your kids to make good, quality friends?

The sky was a perfect blue. It was an atypical warm winter day.

We’d been at the playground for less than 10 minutes.

I stood alone, watching and breathing deep as other parents stood in small circles clearly in a mom’s group. A few others stood alone themselves.

On their next turn around, my daughters were being chased. Smiles as big as rainbows beamed across their faces.

Giggles.

Hiding.

Running.

In the car, breathless, I hear these words.

“I was playing tag. I made a friend.”

This is how kids make friends with perfect strangers.

It is much harder for adults.

Even harder for some mothers, it seems.

I created The Abundant Mama Project and village to be that creative, supportive community that so many lack in real life– to give them what I know so many need.

They say that it takes a village to raise a child.

That’s not entirely true.

Many of us are doing it on our own, without a village, at least not in real life.

In fact, it takes a village to raise a mother.

A village that understands.

A village that offers unbridled support and love.

A village that’s been there — a few times!

A village that’s not afraid to look out for your best interest.

This week, I hope you gave thought to the concept of making connections. Either by reaching out to someone online or in real life. A connection is a connection as long as it’s from your heart.

I was inspired by this video below. Please watch it.

This kind of ball pit dating is what we do in the Abundant Mama village — except without the balls! We share our dreams. We share our goals. We share our worries.

And we’re all strangers — seeking connection.

Strangers running around, giggling and supporting each other like whoa.

Let’s stretch ourselves and make new connections and see where it takes us.

There’s only 24 hours left to join in on the next The Abundant Mama Project. We set sail on our journey on Monday.

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Abundant Mama Series: Meet Gina

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Being involved in the Abundant Mama Project is a true honor for me. I needed that village as much as the rest of the Mamas who have joined each class — and there have been three! I am happy to introduce Gina from Connecting Family & Seoul. Gina joined the very first AMP class and continues to amaze me with her passion for becoming a true, authentic mother. She does great work on her site for parents raising little children. Check her out!

How do you seek out meaningful moments in your everyday life?

I’ve always been the type of person that pauses to watch nature unfold outside of my window.  I just love sunrises and sunsets, I’m in awe of clouds on a blue, sunny day, and I always think how lucky I was to be the only person to see that squirrel grab his dinner and scamper up the tree.

While I’m at home with my son, I try to help him become aware of those simple, magical moments that are happening all around us.  We also usually let the day take us along at a slow pace.  If we get up early and are ready for the day, we may go out and run a few errands every now and then, but most days are filled with playing, walks outside, sharing mealtimes, and having my little assistant help me with the chores.  When Daddy gets home, my son runs to him and doesn’t look back.

There aren’t many days when dinner doesn’t consist of the three of us.  Whether we’re in the dining room, sitting on a bench in the park, or cuddled up for a movie night, we always make it a priority to have our meal together and have a little fun!  These precious moments together mean so much to us and I only hope that Grady is comforted by them as he grows up and eventually leaves the nest.

What is your most magical family tradition or ritual?gina2

Ever since we were married, my husband and I always enjoyed a warm, home-cooked breakfast together on the weekends.  As our family grows, we continue that tradition, lazily waking up in the morning and heading into the kitchen to whip up a batch of pancakes or waffles.  We love to add a little bit of something special to them, whether it be chocolate chips, apple slices, or some whipped cream on top.  Sitting down together and enjoying each other’s company with a no distractions, always set the mood for the rest of the day!

How do you take care of yourself so you can take great care of your family?

I am so blessed to have a husband that plays such an integral part in his son’s life and shares in the responsibilities of parenting with me.  I absolutely love being a stay-at-home mom, but sometimes at the end of a long day, I could use some time to regroup and relax.  While my husband bathes my son, I take a few moments for myself to read, write, or simply sit by the window and watch the world pass me by.  Reading is my passion, so whenever I have some time alone, you’ll often find me curled up with a book and steaming cup of tea on my favorite chair in the living room.

What does living fully in the world mean to you and how does it impact your life as a Mom?

I often feel that if you truly want to be a living, active part of this world, then you need to attempt to create memories that will last a lifetime.  I’m not talking about winning the Nobel Peace Prize or discovering a long anticipated cure for a disease (although those would be fabulous!). I’m talking about taking the time to really enjoy life with the people that you care about.  As a mother, I am always trying to begin or continue a tradition that my son will remember fondly as he gets older.  It is my hope that taking the time for those that you love, giving them your attention, and connecting as a family in all sorts of ways will help them remember that I was there for them and loved them wholeheartedly, without abandon.  There are so many memories that I cherish as a child. Even though some of the people from those special moments during childhood are gone, I will always know that they lived fully in this world, as a part of my life.

What do you like to create and how in the world do you find time to do it?

There are two creative passions that bring me joy whenever I take the time to embrace them.  The first, taking photographs, is a bit easier to incorporate into my daily life.  I am behind the camera so often that my son has started to carry around his toy camera taking duplicate pictures of the ones that I have created throughout the day.  There are pictures on each wall of my home, on any item that doesn’t move, and stuffed into the closets waiting for the day that I will finally get them into an album or scrapbook for display.

My other passion is baking and decorating cakes.  There was never a time growing up that I didn’t have a homemade cake designed by my mother for my birthday.  Any movie character or hobby that my sister or I asked her to represent on a cake, she made it happen.  I’ve followed in her footsteps and am overjoyed to watch a cake take the form of whatever my imagination comes up with.  They don’t get baked as often as I like, but you can be sure that my family will have a masterpiece for each birthday that rolls around.

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Tell us something that you are so happy you said ‘yes’ to in your life. 

By far, the best decision that ended up being a “yes” was the one I made to release my fear of flying two years ago.  With that decision, my husband and I got to travel halfway around the world to meet our son.  I’ve always been fearful. Discovering that a flight to Korea would take at least 13 hours to complete, it made me pause a moment during our plans to adopt.  The moment passed quickly and was tucked neatly away in the back of my mind as we planned our trip to finally meet our son in Seoul.  I can’t imagine our lives being complete without that little man and his huge smile lighting up our home, bringing joy to us each day.

How does your family live authentically? 

We try so hard each and every day to live a life without regrets.  Growing up with grandparents that lived right next door and short car ride away was an important part of my childhood. I wanted my son to have that same gift.  That’s why, after Grady entered our family, we packed up our bags and moved back to my hometown so that he could get to know his grandparents and relatives…have roots.  We live a very quiet life, doing the things that make us happy, and sharing it with the ones we love.  We are working together, learning how to be a family, on a daily basis.  It’s a lot of practice, but in the end, it is so worth the time and effort that it takes to bring joy and happiness into our lives.

Gina is a former elementary school teacher, turned stay-at-home mom to an adventurous 2 year old.  She and her husband strive to create an atmosphere in the home that fosters strong family connections through guidance and inspiration.  You can read more about their family fun at her blog, Connecting Family & Seoul or by visiting her on Facebook  or Google+.

 

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The Balance of Motherhood Lies Within

The balance of motherhood lies within via Awesomely Awake

The balance of motherhood lies within via Awesomely Awake

For the longest time, there was this perfectly round pink sticker on our family room’s laminate floor.

It was stuck perfectly between our TV stand and our carpet.

Each morning, for the last few weeks, I walked downstairs, turned on the light, tuned up my iPod and practiced yoga – a new ritual for me.

My best friend from high school and I created a little mission to begin a home yoga practice. Nothing fancy. I don’t have time for fancy classes — or frankly, the money. And, more importantly, the classes never fit my crazy working mother schedule.

This home yoga practice is ideal and it’s also on my 40 by 40 list!

So back to the pink sticker.

When my yoga podcast suggested I find a focal point for the tree pose, my eyes naturally went to the pink sticker.

I’d balance on one foot, fingers and arms splayed out like tree limbs reaching for the warm sun, gazing at the tiny pink paper that came to represent so much more than a sticker.

I began to look forward to meditating on that pink sticker.

As my feet planted into the floor, the sticker reminded me that despite all my attempts sometimes — I am still and always will be Jadyn and Liana’s mother.

It came to represent those fierce feelings of being pulled in many directions all day and simply just trying to remain balanced.

It also came to symbolize the imperfection and enoughness that I have come to embody. The mere fact that I am not only OK but thrilled to see a pink sticker on my floor is evidence of that.

I loved the idea of the pink sticker being stuck on my floor, maybe forever because it reminded to wake up and realize to let go of old habits, worries that don’t matter and to walk away from the valley of comparisons that seem to run rampant no matter where you hide.

Oh, but how easy it is to just peel it all off and start again. To wake up and realize that we are exactly where we need to be.

And we always have been.

How easy it is to plant our feet strong, standing in one spot — focusing, being present, being aware.

And how much we strive to shed who we are for who we used to be – knowing full well we absolutely could never return to that person because, honestly, how could we dare to go back now?

So I meditated on that pink sticker each morning.

I hoped no one would ever remove what had become another reminder to notice the details of my life.

And then this morning — deep in the tree pose — I noticed it was gone.

But what I also realized is that I didn’t need it.

My focal point, my balance lies within my heart.My focal point, my balance lies within my heart via Awesomely Awake

I don’t need other people, books, magazines, celebrities — or pink stickers — telling me what is best for me.

Now as my feet plant firmly on the ground each morning, I scan the floor realizing the latest lesson.

I’ve got this.

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