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Abundant Mama Series: Meet Danielle

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Here we go with another fantastic Abundant Mama interview. Please say hi to the amazingly wonderful Mama Danielle from 52 Brand New. Last year, Danielle took her children on a journey to try something new each week. And, they’re doing it again this year!

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How do you seek out meaningful moments in your everyday family life?

My project of trying one new experience with my children every week was designed to create meaningful moments as a family.  Every week, we try something new together.  Sometimes the experience only takes a few minutes.  Other times, it takes up an entire day.  But, all of our experiences are quality time spent together.

When I started the blog, I knew that each individual experience would help us bond as a family.  I did not realize that the project as a whole would also provide a bonding experience.  Besides the blog, I have a handwritten list in our kitchen.  The kids like to read the list and recall some of our experiences.  They have also been coming up with their own ideas for experiences.  When we look over the list or blog together, I think they feel like we are in our own little club.   They feel like an important part of the 52 Brand New project as well as a part of our family.

What’s your most magical family moment?Family in Saguaro National Park

It is so hard to choose just one moment because I think there is a little magic in our lives every day, but here is one that comes to mind: I took my children to Arizona earlier this month.  We went hiking in Saguaro National Park.  We were about a mile from the trailhead, and I just had this realization that we were literally the only people around for miles.  I looked ahead and saw my son shuffling his feet to kick up the dust for the fun of it.  I looked down at my daughter, who was busy watching leafcutter ants march by.  At that moment, I realized I needed nothing more in life than what I had right there.


What does living fully in this world mean to you?


Living fully is more than just being in the moment.  It is creating the moments you want to be in.  We all have obligations and responsibilities that take up much of our time, so free time should be treated as though it is the most valuable thing we own.  I try to spend my free time with my family doing things we enjoy.  This takes some planning, but my time is so precious that I think it is worth the effort.


What do you love to create and how in the world do you find the time to do it?


I am a writer.  I keep two journals.  One is my personal journal in which I write about the day’s events and how I am feeling.  The other is a journal I keep about my children.  I write down anecdotes about their childhood that I just want to preserve forever.  I also update my blog once or twice a week. I generally write after my children are in bed.  I sit down with a cup of tea and write for anywhere from half an hour to two hours every night.  It is my way of relaxing.  I don’t watch much TV, so it is my way of unwinding every night.

What is something that you are so happy you said YES to in your life?


I am glad I chose to co-parent peacefully with my ex-husband.  When I went through my divorce, I was so angry and hurt.  Getting divorced was not my choice, and the last thing I wanted was to give up time with my children so that my ex-husband could have parenting time.  But, I chose to put my children’s feelings before mine.  They love their father and enjoy spending time with him every week.

When my ex-husband comes inside my house to pick up the children, he frequently plays with them in my basement before they go to his house, and he typically reads the kids a bedtime story in their rooms before he leaves. I know that this arrangement is not typical, but it works for our family.  The kids have an easy transition between my house and their father’s house.  They are happy, and that is what matters most to me.

How is your family living authentically?

When my children were younger, I really worried about what other parents were doing.  I so got caught up in trying to make sure my children had every opportunity to succeed that I wound up overscheduling my preschooler and toddler.  We went to music class, Gymboree, and piano lessons regularly.  I had also tried swim classes, preschool book clubs, and Spanish classes. My children enjoyed all of these classes (except the piano lessons!), but we were running around all the time and didn’t have enough time for free play.

Over a year ago, I cut way back on their activities and find that we are now having more fun as a family.  I made the decision to parent the way I think is best for our family.  We have fewer structured activities now, so the kids have time to go to the playground, relax with good books, and play with their toys.  I no longer worry that my kids will be at a disadvantage because they are not taking foreign language classes or playing two sports.  They are creative, active, and most of all, happy kids.

Danielle Greco is the author of the blog 52 Brand New, where you can follow her weekly adventures and learn to start your own.

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Guest Post: A Gentle Nudge

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I am honored to have another Awesomely Awake mama  — Danielle Greco of 52 New Experiences —  here today. Danielle’s trying new experiences with her kids each week this year. Her project is very inspiring for people with young children. If you haven’t met her, be sure to check out her great blog.

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Hi!  I’m Danielle.  I am excited to be featured here at Awesomely Awake, one of my favorite blogs.  You can usually find me at 52 Brand New, where I chronicle our family’s adventures as we try a new experience every week of the year.  We hope to inspire others to do the same.

I love trying new experiences with my children, and they usually enjoy it, too.  My kids have been brave enough to touch exotic insects and snakes, eat ethnic foods, and hike farther than most children their age.  But occasionally, they balk at trying something new.  They plant their feet firmly in the ground, refusing to budge, and swear they will not do something that I really hoped they would try.  What is an Awake parent to do?

I’ve realized that I walk a fine line between being pushy and being encouraging when I try to convince my children to try something new.  After a few years of trial and lots of errors, I have come to understand that my children respond well to a gentle nudge, not a firm push.  

What is the difference between a gentle nudge and a firm push?  A gentle nudge honors the child for who he is.  My son is very cautious.  He loves to run and play sports, but he does not like to jump from anything high.  He has been this way since he was a toddler.  I respect his personality and his wishes, so I need to be careful when encouraging him to jump off the playground structures at our local park.  I literally hold his hands and let him know that I won’t let him go.  I recognize his fear and help him take just a tiny step outside of his comfort zone.  

A gentle nudge has a different intent than a firm push.  A parent who wants to develop their child’s confidence gives a gentle nudge whereas a parent who wants their child to be the “best” at something gives a firm push.  My daughter absolutely loves to dance.  She takes a Kinderdance class every Friday where she is learning the basics of tap and ballet.  She usually wakes up on Saturday morning asking how long until dance class again.  Her first recital was last week, and she was very nervous.  Leah is shy, and the thought of standing on stage terrified her.  I recognized her fear.  I let her know I understood how scary it is to be on stage, but told her we would take it in “baby steps.”  First, we sat in the audience at the dress rehearsal, then we went onstage together and I stayed in the wings.  Last, she went on by herself but stood next to her teacher.  When her recital came, she went onstage with a smile.  I didn’t give her a firm push because I truly did not care whether she was the best dancer in the group or the worst.  I just wanted her to have the confidence to do something she loves in front of other people.  

A gentle nudge is given for our child.  A firm push is given for ourselves.  I have definitely confused the two before.  In March, we went to an indoor water resort.  My children were super excited to go, but when we got there, they refused to go down any of the slides.  I was surprised and a bit annoyed.  What was the point of spending so much money for them to play in the baby pool all day?  I somehow overlooked the fact that they were enjoying themselves splashing in the baby pool and practically dragged them up the steps to one of the slides.  I knew they would have fun on the waterslides if they gave it a chance.  As we approached the top, Luke started screaming while Leah started crying.  The lifeguard told me to hurry up and make a decision because other people were waiting.  I must have looked like the world’s worst mother as I walked back down the steps with two hysterical children.  

I didn’t honor my children’s personalities and wishes.  I wasn’t trying to instill confidence.  I just wanted my money’s worth of the water park.  Bad mommy moment.  Next time I will do things differently.  I will honor Luke’s cautious side by gently nudging him toward the tiny slides in the kiddie section.  I will build Leah’s confidence by praising her ability to put her head under the water.  Most of all, I will sit on the side and lovingly observe my children finding such joy in a baby pool.

If you enjoyed this article, you will also like these other posts by Danielle:

 10 Ways to Expand Your Child’s Comfort Zone

 New Experience #21:  Lemonade Stand

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Amaze Yourself & Try Something New

Photo by Clearnew via Flickr

Photo by Clearnew via Flickr

Where exactly is your comfort zone?

Is it right there, where you are sitting right now? Is it your nice padded computer chair? Is it chasing little people instead of chasing your dreams? Is it cleaning the floors again?

I know where I’m comfortable. But I also know how to walk to that edge and push myself to take a big fat leap of faith.

Close your eyes. Just know that where you land may be beautiful, it may teach you new things. It will be OK. You’ll be OK.

It’s all in the baby steps. That Big thing you’re so worried about, well, it’s going to continue feeling big until you just do it. Get it over with.

Scratch it the hell off your list.

I know fear. I felt that way when I started Awesomely Awake. Or when I taught an art class to 50 Kindergarteners and I’m not even an artist or a teacher! I felt fear when I signed on to teach my first writing class even though nothing felt more right for me.

It’s not even the skill or the perfection to worry about … trying something new can be glorious and wonderful and amazing just for the sake of it. Even if it’s not ideal in the end.

Climb new mountains, travel new, overgrown paths, jump where no one has jumped before.

Go ahead, pet that dog you’re afraid to pet. Touch that tarantula.

Photo by Marina.

And then sit back and let your children try new things, too. Encourage them to leap into the air, jump off that big wall, push through the fear a bit more.

There is no better way to Wake Up in this life than trying something new, or like walking where you’ve never walked before or like listening to something you’ve never heard before. Stop worrying about the lack of money or the lack of time or the lack of interest.

This is your life. Your one chance.

Intentionally, mindfully step out of your comfort zone and go for it. Show your kids that you are willing to do that and watch them do the same. Show them how to be risk takers. Demonstrate your boldness. Model the magic and see the charm work on them as well.

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