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Why Playful Parenting Matters

Why Playful Parenting Matters

This morning wasn’t exactly smooth.

One of my girls finally slept through after three days of waking with a bad cough and stuffy nose.

Yay.

But her twin woke at 5:15 a.m. thinking she had to throw up. (she didn’t!)

By 7 a.m. we were in the middle of not knowing what was going on … school or no school? Sick or not sick?

She didn’t want to go. She wasn’t THAT sick. In fact, she wasn’t sick at all.

That’s when I started dancing. Silly, crazy dancing. And singing.

A big smile erupted on her face.Play makes parenting easier

Cured.

This is playful parenting at its best but  it’s not always easy to relax in a tense moment to break out into song and dance.

But it is possible with the right tools and confidence that you aren’t messing it all up by laughing and having a good time.

This is what I keep wanting to tell people when I see them taking it all too seriously.

And I do, too. I take it too seriously, too.

But I’ve learned enough and experimented enough to know that play seriously makes parenting easier — not harder.

This isn’t about loose, no-rules parenting.

It’s about encouragement with a side of love.

It’s about enjoying this life with kids instead of dreading it.

It’s about working rest into our hard, responsible lives and feeling more alive.

I’ve been thinking a lot about playful rituals and routines as I finalize all the magical details for The Playful Family Adventure. In this course, I’ll be showing you how to make playfulness a part of your daily routine, not something else you have to work in today.

Playing and enjoying life isn’t some chore we have to do after the dishes are done.

Or it shouldn’t be anyway.

I’m a mom, yes.

But, I’m also a woman who wants to have a day filled with joy and love — not screaming and crying.

I suspect you feel the same way.

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The Playful Family Adventure is only four weeks and each week you will find new ways to ease yourself into a playful parenting mode rather than go kicking and screaming.

And it’s as much for a working mom or dad as it is for a stay-at-home mom or dad.

And, my favorite part of this e-course is the weekly Playful Dares I will challenge you with. These alone are worth jumping up and down and doing a silly dance over because they will get you LIVING a playful life not just thinking about it.

You weren’t raised that way but the more you live it and learn it and absorb it, the easier it will be for you.It’s like learning a new language, this playful parenting thing.

Build your Playful Parenting habits now … before the kids are gone and you wish you’d done things differently.

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{Family Fun} Wrap Dad as a Mummy

Cheap Family Fun Wrap Dad up as a Mummy

 

A cheap, fun and crazy game any family can do right now together

This post is a part of The Playful Family series based on my e-book, “The Playful Family,” which offers many inexpensive, fun ways to positively connect and engage as a family. With nearly 100 ways to play together the book is a great deal and a great way to re-charge and inspire fun times together.

Question of the Day: What is the best non-toy your kids have ever discovered?

About a year or more ago, I bought these great little idea cards for families to offer more inspiration for blogging and writing this site.

We’ve used them about two times.

Perhaps our own ideas are just usually more interesting?

But, early one morning a couple Sundays ago, one of my girls started going through the stash of cards, which we keep on our dining room table next to our Amazing Moments jar.

She read through them until she found one that literally nearly made her eyes pop out of her head with excitement.

Mummy wrap someone in an entire roll of toilet paper.

To be honest, that particular morning was one of the more stressful for our family in a long time for reasons I will not go into but nothing to do with our personal lives all that much. But, it was the kind of morning we could have easily said no and that would be that. It would have been understandable.

We didn’t say no.

I said yes and then she ran to her dad and he said, yes, as well, and she came bouncing downstairs with a fresh roll of toilet paper in her small  hands. She proceeded to stand on a chair and wrap him. Soon, her sister joined in on the fun …

The rest is history — fully documented in the following photos.

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To be honest, we all got the biggest kick out of wrapping Daddy up as a mummy in toilet paper. I happily took a ton of photos while my girls happily use the ENTIRE roll of toilet paper. Possibly the most entertaining and most fun .53 cents ever spent — proving once again that non-toys rule. If you’ve been around here a while, you know that we’re not afraid of messes. In fact, we encourage messes quite often. And, if messes aren’t your thing, you learn to cope with them pretty easily and this is a great mess to start with.

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But the real fun began once we became the Incredible Hulk and forced his way out of his wrap. That’s when the girls went wild and made a huge mess, which a bit later, when they were exhausted from it all, they happily picked up in three minutes set on the stop watch on my iPhone.

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Question of the Day: What is the best non-toy your kids have ever discovered?

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6 Creative Games for Family Time

Connecting through art projects

Connecting through art projects

Question of the Day: When was the last time you created something?

Whenever I create something with my daughters, they are always amazed with my artistic work.

And, to be honest, so am I.

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Before becoming a mother, I would have never dreamed of picking up a paintbrush or a canvas.

And yet I find the process so relaxing and to be the creative boost I need that day to make me feel grounded and centered.

We’re big fans of experimenting with art as a family.

While my book, “The Playful Family,” doesn’t give any art project ideas, one of our favorite ways to play together is creating art.

Simple supplies and simple directions can lead to big results and big smiles.

You can get more inspiration for a Family Art Night over on Simple Kids.

But, at our house, Family Art Dates are really just slow days when we are drawn to gather around our dining room table and creating together.

It’s our time to slow way down, talk, laugh and be creative all at once. We all seem a bit more peaceful after a good hour of making something with our hands and sharing our work.

Connecting as a family through art

Here are some 6 Creative Games for Family Time to get you doodling and playing together in the spirit of playful creativity — our favorite kind of play!

The Doodle Game — If you have an easel, turn it around so only the artist can see their design. Everyone else sits and snuggles on the couch, waiting. The illustrator draws a picture and then the rest of us must guess what the picture is by asking 20 questions. Like Pictionary, but backwards — and way more fun for little kids. Also, like 20 Questions or Headbandz but much more creative.

Family Banner — Honor your personalities and fun traits with a family banner. We love doing this together on a slow night. Dads should participate, too.

Color Wars — Cut out paper crowns and have each person decorate it with their favorite color and then dress up and get all fancy in just that color for the night. You can even hold a parade at the end. And take pictures … lots of pictures.

Puppet Show — Using craft sticks, paper, glue and other materials, have each person in your family create their own puppet character. It can be anything at all. When you are all done creating, share your characters and perform a puppet show with them.

Secret Drawing Game — Another favorite that is perfect with a theme — such as a season or a holiday — is to have each person in your family draw a picture in secret related to the theme you all agree on. Take as much or as little time as necessary. Try to be as creative as possible. At the end, share what you each created and compare and contrast your ideas.

Create a Story Mural — I first read about the idea of story maps on Mama Scout’s site and since then we’ve made it our own and have been creating a story mural about every month together. The best idea is to have the children decide who their characters will be and where the setting is and then from there let the plot develop. Our last story mural was about a black bear chasing after the strawberries in a strawberry patch.

Not only is a Family Art Day relaxing, it’s a great way to work in being creative when you don’t have time otherwise. Use this time wisely to boost your own creativity for your own art project ideas!

The Artful ParentFor more great art ideas, though, check out Jean Van’t Hul’s the brand new book just out this week, “The Artful Parent: Simple Ways to Fill Your Family Life with Art and Creativity.” With more than 60 projects for kids 1 to 8,  any family can find something worthy of a family art date.

I received my pre-ordered copy on Tuesday and can’t seem to stop flipping through its beautiful, inspiring pages. Jean and I have been friends for years and I’m excited to finally get a chance to meet her in real life very soon. Her creative adventures have long inspired my family and I can’t wait to give all of these projects a chance. We’re going to start with the pillow case art as our next Family Art Date.

Question of the Day: When was the last time you created something?

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The Importance of Pausing as a Family

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Slowing down isn’t always easy to do.

Recently, I realized my daughters needed more slow times, more unstructured play and more quiet activities. Summer is always so tempting to rush about — swimming, walking and playing outside, going places and visiting parks. Playing outside and doing activity after activity is not always what we need but it’s always what we feel we must do in the summer. Add to that a summer of very little rainy days and it’s enough to exhaust a family.

At least that’s how we’ve been feeling — judging by how tired and cranky we’ve all been feeling lately.

In fact, I suspect we’ve had a very bad case of a soul fever in our house.

Soul fevers is a phrase coined by Kim John Payne, author of “Simplicity Parenting.” I read Payne’s book last fall when I was launching Awesomely Awake and I yelled out a few, ah-has when I read the chapter on Soul Fevers. The authors describe soul fevers as illnesses of the soul that are just as serious as a physical fever. In fact, recovering is much the same. You know your child has a soul fever if he’s just not acting right — perhaps misbehaving or withdrawing more than usual. This acting out, the book states, is a sign of a larger issue and a serious break is needed.

In the adult world, we called them mental  health days. Remember those? When was the last time you took a mental health day and watched a chick flick and ate take out? Yeah, me either.

When was the last time you gave your children a mental health break?

An Awesomely Awake parent knows when things just aren’t right. We are present and aware and understand that slowing down is as important as breathing.

In my Summer E-course, I’ve talked a lot about having the most meaningful moments summer can offer as well as mixing in some slow days.

But, I forgot that the kids need slow days, too. Well, I guess I just didn’t think they needed them since they are on summer break from school after all.

Clearly, they have needed downtime despite their arguing that they do not. We had to get serious and start cutting back. I have to do this every now and then for myself … you know, start looking at the calendar and really start considering what’s important and what is just going to have to wait another year. It’s hard to make those decisions — especially when you’ve been looking forward to something. But this year it’s urgent. I see how this crazy go-go-go mentality that my kids often inspire with their wants and desires is impacting our days negatively. They may not like that we have to forgo a few social events, but it’s what we need to do to get back on track.

Last week, we put swimming on hold and just enjoyed each other’s company inside. We made friendship bracelets and other art projects that were just fun and had no purpose.

This week, at their urging for a walk, we went on a slow pajama walk instead with strict rules of no rushing, no playing and no running. We’re having Sunday Sundaes. We’re squeezing in more snuggle time. Now that we’ve started doing all of this, the girls seem more open to staying close to home rather than running about. They are now choosing more quiet, simple activities rather than the loud, boisterous ones they were picking a few weeks ago.

The result has been a much more peaceful, much more loving atmosphere at home.

I’m kind of liking soul fevers, in fact.

How about you? Has anyone in your family suffered from a soul fever? Anyone needed a pause in order to reset and get back on track? How did you handle it? Do you have any advice to offer? We’d love to hear it.

**Get your copy of my book, “The Playful Family,” today!

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